Taking one for the team

The following is a hypothetical situation, and is not based off of an actual encounter, but it is a scenario that most swingers will eventually face, so I figured it would be a good story to make up for a blog post.

It was a typical night at the club. My wife was not meeting anyone that she was all that interested in, but I was having a great time chatting up a female club going. Things were going great with her, and it was clear that we were both interested in playing with each other. There was one issue standing between us and the bedroom, however. My wife and I, and her and her husband are same room only couples, we only play with others when our partners are present as well. Eventually we get the opportunity to introduce our spouses to eachother. While he seemed interested in my wife, but was wife was not particularly attracted to him. After the 4 of us had chatted for a while, my wife whispered in my ear "I am not really attracted to him, but you seem really into her. If you really want to play with her, I will take one for the team to make it happen for you".

This scenario is fictional, but is one most swingers will eventually face. Everyone is a lifestyle relationship needs to ask "Should I or my partner ever take one for the team?"

Saying "No thanks" to an offer to play

It was a busy night at the club. We found ourselves in a small group with some other club members who we had not met before. Mrs. Penguin and I were very interested in one of the couples in the group, but had no real interest in one of the other couples at our tables. Its not that they were unattractive, annoying, or uninteresting, its just that for whatever reason they were not doing anything for us. Despite lack of interest in playing with them, we were still having a good time talking with them and everyone else in the group. Unfortunately, this couple was very much interested in us, and it did not take too long for the other man to ask me if we would would wanted to go downstairs to find a room.

Tips and Advice for New Swingers

When Mrs. Penguin and I first started swinging, we talked with a lot of people who had been in the lifestyle for a while, and were eager to hear their advice, and to learn any tips or tricks that they could pass on to us to help us enjoy ourselves and avoid any problems or drama. Many first time swingers are left to their own devices to figure out to how to swing, so anything they can learn from more experienced swingers will help them along the way.

Below you will find some of this advice compiled in convent list form :

Running into a co-worker at a swingers club

Mrs. Penguin and I were having a good night at the club. We talked to some friends, had some drinks, and eventually decided that we were in the mood to bang eachother, so we headed into the couples only group play area at the club. This play area is an open room with 7 separate beds in it. We are having a great time, and are really getting into it. While we play with eachother, we take a moment to look around the room to enjoy watching the other couples play. We are enjoying the scenery when it finally happens.... Mrs. Penguin looks at the bed to our left and sees a co-worker of hers, bent over on all fours, getting pounded doggy style right next to us.

Why you should experience playing at home and in the club

--We watched as he placed his head between her legs.  Her moans growing as he relentlessly licked her clit.  Swirling his tongue up and down, side to side.  Breathing in and out of his mouth as he went about giving her the sensation of warmth and cold.  Then he slowly eased a finger into her wet, waiting pussy.  Moving it in and out, she arched her body towards him, as her pleasure increased with each stroke.  She grabbed a handful of his hair pulling him up and away from her.  She moved to the floor and knelt in front of him.  She slowly encompassed his erect penis with her mouth.  Moving slowly at first, and then faster as she drew him deeper into her.  He started swaying, pushed forward into her as she moved.  The look on his face was sensual, and eager for more--

Setting Rules For Couples

On one of our first trips to a swingers club, my wife and I were asked by a more experienced couple "what are your guy's rules?". Our response was that we had not talked about it yet. This couple told us "do yourselves a favor and don't play with anyone until you have both sat down and agreed upon a set of rules". This simple statement proves to be one of the best pieces of advice that any experienced swinger can give to a couple new to the lifestyle.

What to expect on your first visit to a swingers club

Your have been talking about giving swinging a try with your partner for a while. After months of debate, you both decide that you want to move actively investigate the lifestyle, and that the best way to do that would be to visit a swingers club. Now that you have decided to go, the next thought that is likely to go through your head is "What should I expect on my first visit?"

Swinger Slang

When you first start swinging, you will quickly discover that there is a lot of lifestyle specific terminology. Many swinger website and personal ads use slang or abbreviations, and it is important to be speaking the same language as everyone else.

Below is a list of some common swinger terminology that should help new swingers understand what everyone is talking about. This list is my no means all inclusive, but it should help the beginner swingers communicate with others in the lifestyle.

How I started swinging

So it would seem fitting that I share my story, and I hope you will do the same.  After all, sharing is part of the fun :)

It all began one playful night "pun intended" in college.  There I was with my boyfriend, his roommate, porn on the tv, and plenty of alcohol.  As we sat watching the porn, a scene came on of two guys and a girl.  I was 20 years old, and had not dated much in high school.  Looking back, I was very inexperienced and was only just starting to know what I liked and didn't like.  I had watched regular guy and girl porn and to be honest thought it was rather bland.

As I watched these two guys with this girl, I realized, "Holy hell that's hot!"  I was so turned on by the thought of receiving pleasure from two men! I had seen enough and it was time to go to the bedroom.  As my boyfriend (now husband) started undressing me and we started making out, his roommate enters the room.  I didn't know if he was going to sit and watch, or get in on the action.  We invited him to join and before I knew it, I was in sensory overload. 

Why do you swing?

One of the most frequently asked questions when meeting new couples is, "What brought you into this lifestyle?" For some it's the thrill of a new experience.  For others it may be something they have thought about, talked about, or even heard about.  We all have different reasons for choosing this lifestyle.....who am I kidding, we all like to get laid!!!  I mean come on, who doesn't love an ass  smacking, nipple teasing, good old fashion fuck?