What to expect on your first visit to a swingers club

Your have been talking about giving swinging a try with your partner for a while. After months of debate, you both decide that you want to move actively investigate the lifestyle, and that the best way to do that would be to visit a swingers club. Now that you have decided to go, the next thought that is likely to go through your head is "What should I expect on my first visit?"




Since every swingers club is different, there is not a 100% accurate answer for this questions, but in this blog post I will go over what to expect from a typical first visit at a typical lifestyle club.

Most swingers club are "members only" establishments. Some clubs will require that you apply for membership in advance of your first visit, while others will allow you to join at the door. Some club will even require an interview, references or medical examination before membership is granted, but the vast majority of of swingers clubs seem to be willing to accept new members at the door. It's important to look at the membership requirements on the clubs website before your first visit to be sure you have completed any prerequisites for membership before your first visit.  Assuming the club you visit allows for new members to join at the door, the first thing you will do when you arrive the membership desk will ask you for your ID, collect the membership fee, and provide you with the membership agreement to review and sign. Once you have done this, you are now a member of the club, and will be allowed inside.

Most clubs will typically give new members a tour of the facility once they are checked in. A club employee will show you where the locker room and bathrooms are, give you a tour of the dance and bar areas, and show the the private room areas. Most importantly, the employee will likely go over all the club rules with you. This is a great time for you to ask the employee any questions about the club you may have. At some clubs, the employee giving the tour may introduce the new members to some of the existing members, but at other clubs the new members are left to explore the club and meet people on their own after their tour.

After your tour, you will likely want to head to the locker room to secure your stuff. The first thing that you will notice is that most clubs do not have separate men's and women's locker rooms, everyone changes in the same room. In fact, most club locker rooms don't even have a door on the locker room. If you did not bring a lock with you, most clubs will sell or rent one to you at the front desk. Most men typically arrive at the club wearing what they will have on for the entire evening, but it is very common for women to arrive in "street clothes", and then to change into something more revealing either after they arrive, or latter on in the evening. If you don't feel comfortable changing in the open locker room, it's nothing to worry about, as it is common at many clubs for women to take their clothes into the bathroom to change in private.

After you drop your stuff off in the locker room, you will likely want to do something with your beverages. Almost all swingers clubs are BYOB, so you will likely have brought the beverages of your choice with you. Some clubs simply have coolers for you to store your drinks in, while other clubs have bars and require you to check your drinks in with the bartender upon your arrival. Most clubs will have fountain drinks, bottles water, and other mixers available for members to enjoy. I have yet to see a club that charges you for the bartender to serve you your own drinks, but if the club has a bartender its important to remember to bring a few bucks along to tip them out. Almost all lifestyle clubs will have some snacks available throughout the night, and many clubs will have full meals for their patrons to enjoy.

Now that you  are all checked in and situated, its time to enjoy the club. Contrary to what you may have expected, not everyone at the club will be looking to play while they are there. Some people go to the clubs to people watch (its my opinion that swingers clubs provide the best people watching on the planet), and others will be there to socialize. Some people simply like to be watched while they play with their own partner, and others are looking to dance and have a good time. Of course, many off the people in attendance are looking to meet new people to play with, or are looking to play with friends that they have already met. There is no expectation that you play with anyone on your first (or any) visit to a lifestyle club. The most important thing that you can do is to simply let yourself have fun, and don't feel pressured to do anything that you don't want to do. Going to a club for the first time can be intimidating for many people who are new to the lifestyle, but it is likely that once you get there, you will realize that your apprehension was unwarranted, and hopefully you will have a great time.

For those experienced swingers who are reading this, feel free to share any advice you have for first time club goers in the comments sections!