The G Spot

The G-spot.  It’s often referred to as a direct link to the female orgasm.  Sometimes called the ultimate pleasure zone.  It has been known to lead to female ejaculation or “Squirting”, but is it really all that?  According to my research, the answer is still unknown.

There are websites that claim there is no magic G-spot that guarantees female orgasm.  According to an article found on the Salon.com website they refer to a study conducted in 2012, “ Dr. Amichai Kilchevsky published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found no conclusive evidence of the G-spot’s existence.  Kilchevsky looked at 96 published studies from the past 60 years, concluding that science couldn’t definitively find the G. “Without a doubt, a discrete anatomic entity called the G-spot does not exist.” 

    

There are other websites that state the G-spot is real, and by stimulating the G-spot, you will be having mind blowing orgasms each and every time.  According to an article on the alternet webpage, they write,  “ Despite claims that the G-spot doesn’t exist, the region, named for Ernst Gräfenberg, has been recognized as a “functioning female organ,” and is known within wider academic circles as “the female prostate." So yes, the G-spot is real. For any and all woman who have experienced a G-spot orgasm, it’s very real. And for the women who haven’t experienced this kind of orgasm, it’s there. They just haven’t located it yet.”

        

However, like in most great debates, the truth often lies somewhere in the middle.  According to the goodtoknow website, “The G-spot has a unique orgasm, which is different from the clitoris. This is due to the fact that the prostate has a different nerve (pelvic) than the clitoris (pudendal), and therefore the G-spot has a different orgasmic sensation. This feeling is one of deep, melting love, and women love it!” 

  

This lead me ask, if not for ultimate pleasure, why do women have a G-spot? 

Again according to the goodtoknow website they state, “Some medical evidence suggests that the G-spot has a purpose other than to make you feel really, really good! Sexpert Emily Dubberley, says, 'Some scientists believe the G-spot can help ease childbirth because when the G-spot is stimulated the pain threshold is increased by up to 84%.” 

So this means that all women should have the ability to have an orgasm through her G-spot? 

Goodtoknow says, “Well, the jury's still out on this one, sexpert Lou Paget says, 'Yes, the G-spot exists, but every woman is different. For some it's an off-the-wall experience and others feel nothing. In the same way that some women have especially sensitive nipples and others don't.” 

I don’t know about you ladies, but this sounds like a challenge to me.  Whether you believe that the G-spot if the key to euphoria, or a myth, you owe it yourself to explore and come to your own conclusions.  Goodtoknow website offers 5 great tips to help you get started.   

G-spot tip No.1 - Get in the mood

It might sound silly but you can't just hit your G-spot and expect instant pleasure. Like many things, it's worth the wait. So, relax, take your time, enjoy some foreplay first - it's easier to find that knobbly, fleshy mound if you are already aroused. And it doesn't matter if you think you don't have a G-spot, as long as you're enjoying sensual sensations, then you or your partner is doing something right.

If you're getting anxious just stop, enjoy some kissing, cuddling and foreplay, use some lube and enjoy your whole body, not just your vagina.

G-spot tip No.2 - Try a sex toy!

Have you ever seen those vibrators that are curved at the top? They can be helpful in finding and stimulating the G-spot. Apply a little bit of lube on to the tip of the vibrator and insert it with the curved tip pointing up towards your belly, so that it finds the G-spot. Move it slowly around the G-spot but don't forget your clitoris, lips and breasts too.

If you're with your partner let him have a go, he might find it easier to stimulate you with the vibrator - then you can just lie back and let him do the hard work! Find the best sex toy for you with our tried and tested guide.

G-spot tip No.3 - Use your fingers

Whether you're doing it yourself or getting help from your partner the technique is the same. Add some lube to the middle and index fingers and slide them a couple of inches inside your vagina.

Start to make 'come here' motions against the front of your vaginal wall - like you're beckoning to someone. Your G-spot should feel different to the smooth walls of the rest of your vagina - it should be noticeably more bumpy and raised. The only way to really know if you're hitting the right spot is how it makes you feel.

Some women say they get a sudden urge to wee (which should pass), and others just feel instantly aroused. If nothing happens at first, try touching it in a different way, vary the speed, change the pressure from light, flicking motions to rubbing intensely, try circular movements and going side-to-side. You'll be surprised at how different they'll all make you feel.

G-spot tip No.4 - Get on top

Tired of all that messing around? Just want to get down to it? Don't worry - it is possible to stimulate your G-spot while having sex and one of the best way to do it is by getting on top.

When you're in control you can angle his penis, shift and move around until you've got it just right and make sure you tell him when you have! Your fella can help you by tilting his pelvis as much as possible. Make sure you've done plenty of foreplay to start with because your G-spot is easier to stimulate when you're already aroused.

G-spot tip No.5 - Do it doggy style

Whatever your thoughts are on doggy-style, there's no denying that it's good for hitting your G-spot - and a perfect position to hide your belly!

The best way to feel the benefits are by getting your man to put his legs outside of yours and lean forward as he thrusts, tilting your bum upwards. This will help to angle his penis downwards, on a direct course to your G-spot!

We recently visited a new club that our friends had been dying for us to check out for some time now.  This particular night, the club was holding a costume contest.  We entered, and to our surprise won!  We were given a gift basket as a prize and inside was a toy, some lubes, toy cleaner, and some condoms.  When we got home the next day and started looking through the basket, I was pleasantly surprised when I opened the toy to find it was one I had been wanting to try. 

I have tried a few toys over the years and have found some that were amazing, and some that were not.  I personally have experience an orgasm through G-spot stimulation, but for me the greatest pleasure is obtained when both the clitoris and the G-spot are stimulated together.  I found this out through just getting to know my body and finding out what I like.  With the aid of some amazing toys, I know what is going to offer me maximum pleasure.

I have a few toys that I love, and wanted to share my favorite 3 with you.  I want to write a disclaimer before we begin.  I don’t sell toys, or work for any companies that do.  I’m just letting you know what I like and where I found them.    

1.       Couples Stimulator

I have a couple’s stimulator (similar one pictured below).  This is used by placing the ring around your partner’s erect penis with the vibrator going towards his belly button while he lies on his back.  You then positioning yourself on top of him and lower yourself onto him allowing the vibrator to press against your clit.  Ladies this is a double win!  While he penetrates you, you are free to move around and angle your body so you get exactly what you want from the virbator.  You get the sensation of penetration and clit stimulation all at once.     

Buy the Couples Stimulator on Amazon

2.       In the Groove

This one is all for me!  Sometimes you just want an extra-large cock, and this fills that order.  The best thing about this is it offers a vibrator as well.  This hits ALL the right areas and is flexible so you can stimulate your clit while also getting Full penetration.  This is my go to especially when my husband travels (A girls got needs) A must try!

https://www.pureromance.com/shop/Adult-Sex-Toys/For-Women/Vibrators/Vaginal-Vibrators/In-the-Groove

3.       G-Spot Stimulator

Ohh my new best friend.  This one truly packs a punch!  This was in the gift basket we received, and when I googled it, I found it sold on Amazon for $18.35, and qualified for Prime.  Yes, 2-day shipping please!   At this price, I want to buy one for all of my friends.  If you have not tried a G-spot stimulator, at this price you have no reason not to.  It has a variety of speeds, and takes your orgasm to the next level by stimulating both your clit and G-spot at the same time.  It will truly take you to new heights!

https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01DD3DRZK/ref=pd_lpo_sbs_dp_ss_2?pf_rd_p=1944687582&pf_rd_s=lpo-top-stripe-1&pf_rd_t=201&pf_rd_i=B012CRJXCO&pf_rd_m=ATVPDKIKX0DER&pf_rd_r=ACWY40QSWG06WJ36FH40

1.       The truth about the “G-spot”: Why it’s time to put this sex myth to bed. (n.d.). Retrieved August 23, 2016, from http://www.salon.com/2014/09/16/the_truth_about_the_g_spot_why_its_time_to_put_this_sex_myth_to_bed_partner/

2.       The Big 'Secret' to Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot: How All Women Can Experience It. (n.d.). Retrieved August 23, 2016, from http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/big-secret-female-ejaculation-and-g-spot-how-all-woman-can-experience-it

3.       How to find your G-spot. (n.d.). Retrieved August 23, 2016, from http://www.goodtoknow.co.uk/relationships/270722/How-to-find-your-G-spot