When Mrs. Penguin and I first started swinging, we talked with a lot of people who had been in the lifestyle for a while, and were eager to hear their advice, and to learn any tips or tricks that they could pass on to us to help us enjoy ourselves and avoid any problems or drama. Many first time swingers are left to their own devices to figure out to how to swing, so anything they can learn from more experienced swingers will help them along the way.
Below you will find some of this advice compiled in convent list form :
1. You can become friends with the people you fuck, but never start fucking your friends
2. Establish a code word with your partner to discreetly tell them that you are not interested in another couple that you are chatting with at the club.
3. Talk with your partner and establish clearly defined rules before you play with anyone else
4. Talk about everything with your partner. Communication is the key to success in the lifestyle.
5. If you are looking to play with male swingers, bring multiple sizes of condoms along, you never know what you will be working with.
6. If you have a latex allergy, be sure to bring your own latex free condoms when you go to the club.
7. When you meet someone at the club, always keep in mind that they are there as a couple, and their partner should always be their priority.
8. When meeting new people, always find out what their rules are for outside of the club contact. Every couple is different, don't risk starting drama by guessing.
9. If you are doing something that you think may make your playmates partner uncomfortable, stop doing it right away.
10. Watch the more experienced swingers at the club to see how they interact with other people in the lifestyle. You can learn alot just by watching.
11. If you go to the club and don't bang anyone except your own partner, you still had a good night.
12. Ease your way into the lifestyle. As you progress from flirting to soft swap to full swap, always take a step back to make sure that you and your partner are still comfortable and are having fun.
Do you have any tips for new swingers? If you do, please feel free to share them in the comments section!
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Swinging Today is a blog dedicated to providing Information, Advice, Commentary and Experiences from and for people in the Lifestyle. Our goal is to help new swingers find their way into the lifestyle, to help experienced swingers share their experiences with others, to provide useful club reviews that all swingers can enjoy, and to provide interesting and erotic commentary about the lifestyle.
Just some notes to add. We agree with the tips so far...excellent advice. Something that we have learned throughout our experiences is that each one is unique and a learning experience. After your play session, make time to reconnect with your partner in a private setting. Not necessarily sex, although that can be really hot!, but where you two can confirm your love for one another and recount the events of the play session. Ask questions. What parts went well? What parts didn't go so well? This will help you to shape your own rules as a couple, but also will strengthen your bond to your partner more than you can imagine. Also, allow for mistakes. Everybody wants the perfect experience every time, but it doesn't always happen that way. Keep it lighthearted...to quote Hustler..."it's just sex". There will be good times and not so good times. Don't beat yourself up over it, learn from it. ---Mr. Beef Strokinoff
ReplyDeleteI couldn't agree more Mr. Strokinoff. Excellent advice!
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